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The Pitfalls of a Forced Apology (and what to try instead)

Written by WHPS Preschool Directors on .

As parents, it isn’t easy at times to navigate an incident involving our child hitting, pushing, or otherwise acting impulsively toward another child (or adult), purposely or accidentally. A common response when we witness something like this is to immediately ask our child to "Say you're sorry." 

We may feel embarrassed and quickly react, asking our child to say, “I’m sorry.”

In our roles as Preschool Directors, we have heard this play out many times. But, there are some issues with this approach:

  1. Young children are still learning to control impulses and may not know why they did what they did. Children also take longer than adults to digest an experience and process it.
  2. The pressure to apologize right then and there takes away their chance to learn from the situation. 
  3. What they do learn might be the wrong message. Forcing a child to say “I’m sorry,” can send the message that apologizing fixes everything and is a quick way to automatically right every wrong.  
  4. A true apology requires empathy, which develops gradually throughout the early years. Young children may not be developmentally ready to understand, much less own the words they are saying.

So what should you do if your child hurts another child?

  • Prevention - If you know your child is more apt to hit or act out when tired, frustrated, or overstimulated, try your best to remain close by so you can intervene before an incident occurs. Use a firm but even tone: “I won’t let you hit,” creating a physical boundary between the children with our hands. In a recent parent/teacher workshop, the presenter referred to these as "ninja hands."
  • Model Appropriate Response - If we are too late and a child is hurt (for example), you can apologize to the injured child and their parent/caregiver. Something as simple as, “Ouch, I’m sorry that Sammy pushed you. Let's help you up and see if you need an ice pack or a bandaid. Is there anything we can do to make you feel better? We are so sorry.” By taking such action, you are modeling to your child an appropriate reaction to take when accidentally or purposely hurting someone. This allows the child to also help care for the injured child, continue to develop empathy, and repair the situation. NOTE: This is similar to the "apology of action" approach we use in elementary school.

There is a reciprocal connection between learning an empathetic response and learning about forgiveness. When we model an appropriate social response, our child is also learning about forgiveness. This is one important way we help our children develop into empathetic human beings.

Winter Show Release - Elementary School

Written by Jacey Dexter, Elementary Principal on .

Elementary families,

We are excited to share our 36th Annual Winter Show with you. Please enjoy this year’s show, which is hosted by students, with many of the acts created by our students.

Like many aspects of our program, the complexity of the performances increases throughout the grades. I know families will be excited to see your child’s class, and I hope you will watch all the way through to Room 19, where you can see the whole progression and end result. We are screening the show for students and teachers during school today.  

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Share this link w/family and friends: http://www.woodlandhillsprivateschool.com/current-families/blog/265-winter-show-release-elementary-school

A special thanks to PAWS for bringing in the professional stage and videographer. And, to one of our elementary families for providing the snow machine, which you will see running at various times throughout the show.

We can’t wait to be back at the PAEC for our 37th Annual Winter Show. I wish you all a safe and happy holiday season!

Jacey Dexter, Elementary Principal 

Winter Show Release - Oxnard Preschool

Written by Vivien & Christine, Preschool Directors on .

Oxnard Preschool families,

We are excited to share the event you all have been waiting for, our 36th Annual Winter Show! We are extremely proud of our little performers and their dance moves. The teachers have become choreographers overnight and have shown the children moves that will have you clapping, cheering and giving them a standing ovation. This will be a memorable performance that the whole family can enjoy, as well as your extended family and friends. We recommend watching from beginning to end. We would not want you to miss any performances because people will be talking about this show for the rest of the school year. 

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Share this link w/family and friends: http://www.woodlandhillsprivateschool.com/current-families/blog/264-winter-show-release-oxnard-preschool

A special thanks to PAWS for bringing in the professional stage and videographer. And, to one of our elementary families for providing the snow machine, which you will see running at various times throughout the show.

Thank you all for your continued support, and we wish you all a safe and happy holiday season! We can’t wait to be back at the PAEC next year. 

Vivien & Christine, Preschool Directors 

Winter Show Release - Collins Preschool

Written by Robin & Ailin, Preschool Directors on .

Collins Preschool families,

We are excited to share our 36th Annual Winter Show with you! We are extremely proud of our little performers and their dance moves. The teachers have been working hard and practicing with the children to develop the performances. We truly hope you enjoy the show and encourage you to watch the whole show from beginning to end. We also hope you will share with friends, family and loved ones. 

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Share link w/family and friends:   http://www.woodlandhillsprivateschool.com/current-families/blog/263-winter-show-release-collins-preschool 

We can’t wait to be back at the PAEC for our 37th Annual Winter Show. Thank you all for your continued support, and we wish you all a safe and happy holiday season!

Robin & Ailin, Preschool Directors

School Threats on Tik Tok & Social Media

Written by Seth Pozzi, Head of School on .

WHPS families:

We have been following the alarming stories over the past couple days about posts on Tik Tok and other social media encouraging school violence and/or children to bring weapons to school today, December 17. 

LAPD has been watching the situation closely, and at this time local authorities and law enforcement across the country have said they’ve received no evidence that the threats are credible. Even so, we take any threats seriously, and the safety of our families and staff is always our top priority. Our staff will be extra vigilant for any issues happening on campus, and we ask the same of our families. 

A reminder to families and students that if you come across any threats on social media, do not re-post. Instead, take a screenshot or picture of the threat and report it to LAPD and WHPS immediately. We have strong safety plans in place in the event we ever need to activate them. We also keep a direct line of communication with our Senior Lead Officers. We would rather act early, out of an abundance of caution, if there is ever a concern. 

FAMILIES

Again, it does not look like this week's threats are credible, but we will continue to investigate any concerns that come to us. If we become aware of any threats that appear to be credible, we will take immediate action and will alert families right away through our text alert system.

Thank you,

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